On the shame of having needs…

On the shame of having needs…

Living in a world that idolises independence and not needing anything from anyone as ‘strong’, I think so many of us have grown up with a warped picture of having needs and we are stumbling around in the dark without realising it. I see from myself how a...
On ‘neediness’

On ‘neediness’

It’s so revealing about us collectively, that we have created this word in the English language: “needy”. The word is so charged, so loaded with judgement. It’s often used an as an insult: being ‘needy’ is the least cool, least...
On the Shadow of Needs

On the Shadow of Needs

While it’s no doubt an important and vital movement, coming into contact with our needs, it feels important to address some of the shadowier aspects of this, that often seem to lie beyond our awareness. We have a cultural blindspot around the necessity to be...