Reflecting and Visioning for the new year
Time to light some candles and take the time to reflect on the past year and visioning for this coming year! Here are some questions I'll be using that my dear friend Tiu De Haan suggested, maybe you want to use them too? 2015 What...
Day 21
After a peaceful few days, now in the full flow of my internal Autumn, today I awoke to a sense of deep irritability and tension within. I am acutely aware of tension in the field around me - the unspoken words, silent projections and triggers, unprocessed...
Taboo: the hidden agenda
Recently I’ve been musing over the complexity of our relationship with the taboo and what lies beyond the surface. Society’s relationship with sexuality is quite obviously permeated with taboo, more so anything that goes beyond a very narrow window of what is...
Sexual Shadow Healing
What are sexual shadows? Our sexuality comes in so many colours, shapes and forms. Many of us are turned on by things that go beyond the narrow bandwidth of what society deems as ‘normal’. Some of us are turned on by specific feelings: such as the feeling of...
Don’t call me ecosexual
First published by Ecohustler It’s true – I love nothing more than to lie cradled and suspended above the ground, thighs wrapped around the gnarled old trunk of a tree. I relish the sensation of this powerful, phallic force emerging from the ground, pressed against my...
Fucking trees
An erotic encounter was not something I expected as I climbed into the beckoning branches of an old avocado tree, 5 years or so ago, whilst woofing in New Zealand. I had been working in various organic farms, my delicate city princess feet toughened by weeks of...
Conscious Kink
Rather than suppressing or acting out in unconscious and self-destructive ways, Conscious or Sacred Kink is the embodied exploration of the full spectrum of our sexual expression in a consensual, risk-aware and conscious way. It is a source of great personal and...
The Darker side of Lust
The Darker Side Of Lust It’s always the same. The topic of rape fantasy comes up in a workshop and a palpable sigh of the relief ripples through the circle, as each woman realizes she is not alone. A study in the Journal of Sex Research has estimated that up to 57...
Coming out: my love of public hard ons
There is something about these images that touches me. Male desire is generally something that is boasted about: the more potent you are, the more of a man you are. Unless of course it comes at an inappropriate time or place. There is something about the volatility...
Day 23
One of the qualities of the second half of our menstrual cycle, when we tip into the landscape of Autumn and Winter, is that our focus starts orientating again towards ourself, rather than the world around us. This is the time when we are invited to face ourselves, to...