post #metoo musings
Women... fact: if you suppress your own sexuality, you are very likely projecting this onto others, including men. If you are not allowing yourself to be comfortable as a sexual being, if you are not at ease with your own initiator and your inner...
On the activism of flirting and the risk of its demise…
Flirting, in its potential, is not some form of 'base' or 'lower' impulse, like it's often thought of, due to our sex-negative conditioning and history of gender wars.... Flirting is a form of nourishment: when we allow ourselves to be curious about each other and for...
On ‘Conscious’ Sexuality & Trauma…
During my first professional sexuality training, I was explicitly encouraged to have no boundaries. If there was a man I didn't want to do an intimate exchange with, I was told I should work through my resistance, that my boundaries were due to my 'issues'. And so I...
On Women & Victimhood
Whenever I or others question anything about women and victimhood, there are often accusations of being misogynist, which - as someone who has devoted a good portion of my life to loving the Feminine and supporting women's empowerment - is so far from the truth I...
A different Day 14
Usually this is my time of feeling like super woman and this month I feel so far from it. I'm feeling overwhelmed and feel so much resistance in me towards my to do lists. My meditation today was that every time I walk anywhere I notice if I am pushing ahead and then...
Day 11
Today I feel my body and being at the peak of it's manifestation mode, as I tip into ovulation and wonder woman mode It's the time when I wake up full of energy, purpose and the feeling of being able to Get Shit Done. The most basic way I use my cycle awareness is...
Day 12
Yesterday I wrote about the challenges I feel around ovulation, but I was reminded that that’s not the full picture during my experience of today... I like to explore different archetypes that I feel relate to different parts of my cycle. Other than PMS, ovulation is...
Day 14
Day 13 or 14 is usually the most challenging day of my entire cycle. I can go to sleep with a 'yes' for life and wake up with a unsettled, irritable, the-glass-is-distinctly-half-empty 'no' for life. What a relief it was over a period of several months of cycle...
Day 16
Today I feel the surge of my internal summer ride me, like the swell of the tide... Around this time it feels like I am riding the last wave of creative energy before slowing down and heading into Autumn. One way of looking at our menstrual cycle is that it contains...
Happiness is not an inside job
I often wish I had never been exposed to 'spiritual' literature and philosophies. Especially the maxim 'happiness is an inside job'. Sure, there is truth in that. But our 'spirituality' emanates from the paradigm we are embedded in... and we end up using spirituality...